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こんばんは。たいへんですね。
私も家族が関西で、自分は関東で、
会うのが1年に1度あるか無いかぐらいです。
私はVmeerさんの今の状況と同じになったことはないので、何も言えないのですが、
数年前、祖父がもう意識がなくなってＩＣＵに入っていたとき、
父は何度も見舞いに行っていたようです。
私も帰っておいでと言われて、関西に帰り、いっしょに見舞いに行きました。
父は私たちの前では、涙も何も見せませんでした。
突然容体が悪化して、意識がそのままなくなって数週間して祖父は亡くなったので
父は話をするチャンスもなかったでしょうが、見舞いに行って何かを語りかけてたのかも。
後悔しないためにしておいたほうがいいこと、私にはわからないです、ごめんなさい。
少しでも早く、Vmeerさんが帰国して、お母様に会いに行けることを祈っています。

>>1 ちいこさん
ありがとうございます。
話はできますのでまだ幸いですね。これまであまり親孝行ではなかったので、できることはしておきたいです。

また、私よりも妻が頑張って家も近いので寄ってくれているようでありがたいですが、こちらも疲れが出たりしないといいのですが。女性の方が大変なのがよく分かる気がします。

ちぃちゃん、ご家族、皆様、健康にはお気を付け下さい。

Vmeer-san, are you okay?
You have my deepest sympathy for you, your whole family and your mother.
She should be around my age, for I think I'm going to live for another 20 or 30 years, so I'd like to leave a comment from the view point of your mother―what I'd think if I were in her place.
And please remember that the followings are merely my personal opinion, and your mother may have completely different ones.

First, I'd want to be told that my days are numbered, and exactly how long. (It's not always the case, though.) I need to prepare for my departure while I'm still strong enough.

Second, I'd want to know for sure that my life has been something worthwhile. Especially, I want to make sure that I have been loved, needed, deeply appreciated by my family members, and that they'll sometimes remember me with a nice, warm feeling.

Third, I'd want to say thank you and good bye to loved ones, specifically and in detail while I can.

Forth, I wouldn't want to be left alone, otherwise I should think negative things, feel desperate and sad. I think I want someone to be always with me, especially at the very last moment.

And last but not least, though I'm not a religious person at all, I may well feel like believing in some religion―Christianity, perhaps? (But it also depends on the individual, of course.)

I truly hope you have a good time with your mother for the rest of her life.

>これまであまり親孝行ではなかったので、できることはしておきたいです。

Vmeerさんみたいな息子さんがいらっしゃるということだけで、なにより親孝行ですよ。
母親は、子供が幸せな様子をみとどけられれば、満足なんです。

>>3 luminさん
Thank you very much for your kindness. Yes, I am OK.
I would be with her at least mentally. She was by her parents at their departure and we will be. She has given her love to her (my) family. We let her know she is with our love.

#She is much older than you. She is the age as few people live in old days. She is so noble that she declined all operations. I could say she lives enough....

Thank you very much again. Take care of your health.